Reflective question: attitude is everything

What attitudes do you have that disempower you when it comes to food or any situation?


2 thoughts on “Reflective question: attitude is everything

  1. Attitude really is everything, especially when you sit down to eat. It does not matter if you have an eating disorder or not, we all have been programmed by our families and society to have a set of attitudes and beliefs about food and our bodies. We begin to label certain foods as being “good”, others as “bad” and before we are old enough to know better, we have a strict set of rules regarding what we “should” and “should not” put into our bodies.

    While I was growing up, it was always about eating only the “good” or “safe” foods, the ones my family taught me were healthy and wouldn’t make me gain weight. Any time I broke my rules and ate a “bad” food, the guilt would hit me like a ton of bricks and all of a sudden I was bad too. I had failed completely, and would feel so ashamed of what I had done. Completely disempowering. My mother’s words would ring through my head “I can’t eat that, I’m on a diet”, and eventually this became my own mantra. My own struggle with bulimia and anorexia was originally shaped by these thoughts and attitudes. My journey through recovery has been one of rewiring what I’ve been taught about food, my body, and my self worth.

    I definitely still catch these thoughts popping up here and there, and if I let them win, they rob me of my power and self esteem. Now my mantra is “it’s just a thought, and a thought can be changed”. Each day I remind myself of how great it is to enjoy life, to enjoy food. The second I choose to listen to my old attitudes and beliefs, I give up my freedom. The truth I hold to now is that there is no food, no amount of exercise, no number on a scale that adds to or takes away from who I am. I choose to accept this as my truth and in turn my ED is powerless over my life.

    To anyone who is struggling with an eating disorder, or if your relationship with food is robbing you of your power, I encourage you to fight back. Reach out to someone you trust and know that you don’t have to do it alone. It takes hard work but you can absolutely change your thoughts, your attitudes, your words, your actions, and eventually your life.

    Thanks for creating the space for me and others to share. Light and Love.

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